Tag: middleage
-
Does Googling “How To Get Rid Of A Turkey Neck?” Make Me A Bad Feminist?
I am a feminist who feels strongly about sexism, ageism, and double standards, so I can’t fathom why this genetic aberration (that was clearly inherited from my father), bugs me so much.
-
Ageing: Is 10 More GOOD YEARS Too Much To Ask?
The thing about the ageing process is that one minute you’re cruising along feeling relatively young for your years and the next you are using hand cream. And yet, despite my lifelong battle with health anxiety, death scares me somewhat less than the journey there and the “not knowing” exactly how and when my finale…
-
COVID-19 Is All Fun And Games Until You Start Looking Like Your Grandmother
I’m sitting at home, dressed to the nines with nowhere to go. Dressed to the nines during COVID-19 (?), I hear you ask. Thanks to Far Kew for this wonderfully appropriate image Well…yes. But I do have two very good reasons for such crazy behaviour: The first is that like many of you, I imagine,…
-
Losing Weight: Who Knew Salmon Was Such A Traitor?
I was listening to a podcast with Clare Bowditch on Conversations this morning (about her book Your Own Kind Of Girl) and it made me question exactly why I’ve started another diet. Like her, I came to the conclusion a while ago that weight is unimportant (as long as it is within a healthy range…
-
There is only one guarantee in life: Everything changes
Some people are resistant to change – particularly from middle age onwards – while others embrace it. Some of us want to cram as many crazy, new experiences into our twilight years, while others take comfort from what they know. Photo by Alexandra Ișvănescu on Unsplash On a personal level, I have always embraced change, which explains my…
-
The Brain Fog Caused By Menopause
Increased forgetfulness or fogginess in the brain has to be one of the most debilitating symptoms of menopause, and it comes at a time when dementia is already a terrifying prospect, particularly for those who have lost parents or older relatives to the degenerative condition. Photo by Daniele Levis Pelusi on Unsplash Two or three…
-
I won’t be getting sober anytime soon but I am “drinking smarter”
Photo from Damir Spanic on Unsplash I was a grown-up last weekend. The old man and I went on a date night to a swanky restaurant and I chose to drive. In my last post I talked about the necessity of making choices in middle age, and prior to last night, I would have looked…
-
Middle Age Is About Making Important Choices
I knocked back some paid work last week. Not that we’re rolling in money and I can pick and choose the hours I want, but this time my choice was based on my health. I knew that working five days a week in three different fields would have undone all of the good I got…
-
It was the small, magical moments during our holiday to Hawaii that mattered most
Forgive me for my recent radio silence, but I’m struggling to get back into real time since our return from Hawaii. No doubt, some of you will be interested to know how we fared, having spent so much time reading about my angst in relation to where the fuck to take an anxious, middle-aged man…
-
21 Pieces Of Advice I’d Give My Teenage Self…
An article in “The Times” last weekend and my coming birthday inspired me to think seriously once again about what I’ve learned during my half-century. I’ve written posts in the past on the topic of the wisdom gained in middle age – mainly in relation to the advice I’d give NC, my daughter, but amazingly…
-
Empty-Nesting: How awesomely liberating is it doing exactly what YOU want now?
It’s my birthday next week, and as has been our agreement for a number of years, the old man and I have a process in place for the event when it comes to presents. It goes something like this: I negotiate a budget (that usually works in my favour because he pretends to feel some…
-
This Is How A Middle-Aged Couple With Anxiety Books A Holiday
There are certain undeniable factors when two people with anxiety get married. 1. There will be a lot of overthinking, and 2) We can talk ourselves out of pretty much anything. Photo by Toa Heftiba on Unsplash Such has been the marital soap opera created by my decision that we go on a proper holiday…